A WORD THAT COMES AND GOES…

LOVE – a word that comes and goes; but few people really know what it means to really love somebody…” – Kirk Franklin

 

English, the language you are reading this message in is quite a basic one when compared to other languages – both past and present.

Take Ancient Greek for example. There is no direct translation for the English word – ‘Love’. Instead, there are the words, eros, phileo, store and agapeo. Eros describes feelings of a romantic or sexual nature. Phileo is love between friends. Store is the naturally occurring love that exists between parents and children. Agapeo is the “love of God” – unconditional and bearing all things.

Last week, the repackaged, re-branded pagan festival of Lupercalia aka Saint Valentine’s Day came and went. Many of us went out and spent exorbitant amounts of money to objectify and exalt our subjects, wives, husbands, girl/boyfriends; – all in a bid to let them know how much we love them and how special we think they are.

At this point I could talk about the spiritual implications of observing such a practice but I think I’ll save that for a later post; – as you can imagine, that subject area is MASSIVE!

Spirituality aside for the sake of this article, tell me – how important is celebrating Valentine’s Day to you? Is it an irreplaceable indication of your love for someone special? If you are in a relationship and you do nothing to commemorate the day – is this a problem? Or at the least, a little disappointing? (use the comment box below)

As for me – I have a clear and defined understanding of who I am and what I should/shouldn’t be aligning myself with spiritually. As such – I do not celebrate or observe Valentine’s Day. This doesn’t mean I do not cherish my wife. In fact – I’m hoping she will read this and get back to me. If she doesn’t feel loved and cherished all year round – I’m not doing my job correctly!

But seriously though – ponder for a moment how modern society has governed our minds and systematically controlled our opinions…

If we don’t engage in popular social customs we are made to feel weird and second-class. I currently live in the UK. In recent years there has been an agenda pushed by the government  to celebrate what it defines as being British.

According to OFSTED (government regulatory body: Office for Standards in Education), the 4 core British Values are: democracy; the rule of law; individual liberty; mutual respect for and tolerance of those with different faiths and beliefs and for those without faith.

This is something that is being pushed throughout society – especially in our schools, colleges and other institutions of academia. It’s worth noting that children are taught what to think (to a point) long before they reach the age of 11. These are the people most likely to be writing and passing our laws, as well as having children of their own in as little as 20 years hence (or less)… 

SCARY.

QUESTIONS – How many times has someone told you that they don’t celebrate Christmas or birthdays? Or that they are vegan? Or that they are not religious but they believe in the power of the universe? Or how about this – they believe in the sacred nature of blood, so they won’t give/receive it; ergo risking death rather than undergo any blood or organ-swapping procedures?

What have you thought? I know what I have thought of such people.

Strange… Anarchists… Brainwashed, sociopathic or hermitic people trying to be different for the sake of being different, without a real root cause. I always thought these people were just rebellious and had problems with authority… They probably had issues in their families and with the law growing up.

According to the above values, this was not very British of me.

It’s only as I have grown older and wiser that I not only dare to disagree with the status quo but I also put into action, my beliefs (whatever they may be).

As a result, respect for people that have different views to my own; materialised instantly. I increasingly find myself the recipient of either – raised eyebrows and open mouths in surprise… Or furrowed brows and pursed lips in contemplative thought.

I find that both responses matter less and less to me everyday.

The more I dig within myself to get to my core… The more I challenge and question my ideals and motives; – is the more comfortable I become in my skin.  So if you want to know more about me, ask questions. If you’re not really interested – don’t. It’s OK. I feel no pressure to get you to change your viewpoint or get you to “join my gang” as it were. I just ask that you be open with your judgements so I can identify you quickly and keep it moving.

Soooo… I’ve made the decision to boycott this ‘love-day’ in favour of taking the “I love you everyday of the year” approach. Mrs. Miikz says she understands and accepts it but I knoooooow she’s watching me. I need to make sure I keep my end of the bargain. If that’s what I’m saying – I need to be true to it;

and so do the REST OF YOU GUYS that quote the highly predictable, “I don’t need a stupid, commercial holiday to show my love for you babe…” lyric. (eyeroll)

 

While I’m at it, I’m boycotting all birthday celebrations as well (including my own). Might as well strike the iron while it’s hot, eh? If you know the date on which I was born – call my mum and thank her for my life like I do!!!

I just need to make sure that I buy gifts and carry out random acts of kindness and appreciation for my loved ones throughout the year. Speaking of which – I think I’m due one soon, especially as the anniversary of my wife’s birth is coming up… Must dash!!!

REMEMBER – love each other as if your own life depends on it…

BECAUSE IT DOES.

ONLY. ONE. MIIKZ.

15 Replies to “A WORD THAT COMES AND GOES…”

  1. Great read really enjoyed this Miikz, a lot of the things mentioned I have also thought about, loads of food for thought and the choice of images are on point hehe.

    As a woman I’d accept this and say fair enough as long as your side of the bargain was always kept 😉 as our lives certainly do depend on it.

    LOVE

    1. @ Sanya

      Yes. I must keep up my side. I cannot have anyone in my life thinking I do not appreciate them, or only appreciate them on a few select days of the year. It’s easier said than done though. I need to unlearn some things and form better (new) habits.

      Thank You For Your Comment!

      ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ.

  2. Hey my hubby follows this anti valentines stance, has done for 20 odd years. Is not a bother to us. The pressure on people is insane for this date every year. 🙂

    1. @ Ez…

      So true! Wow – 20yrs?? That’s really good going!

      I admire that you and your hubby have a mutual understanding. This is a great example to your family and the people around you.

      I think it’s important to set your own standards in life. The fact that you have managed to set yours regarding love and expression speaks volumes about you guys as a unit. The strength and determination needed to stay this course is immense in this; – a day and age where public opinion and scrutiny is so high.

      Thank You For Your Example!

      ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ.

  3. Love this Miikz! Let me know when the next chapter arrive regarding the spiritual aspects of the valentine.
    My husband and I celebrate our wedding anniversary, which by chance landed on that day, the only day my Bishop had free. I believe in love all year around. No point waiting for any particular day as none of those days are guaranteed to us . Say I love you today and treat everyday as though it be your last. Show your appreciation now. Don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today because tomorrow is not promised.
    Loving your bloggs hon. Keep it up! I enjoy the reads.

    1. @ Perly-May

      Wow – that’s quite handy that your anniversary lands on Valentine’s Day. I imagine it doesn’t mean that you both align with the day as a celebration day like the rest of the world – more that you appreciate, commemorate and thank God for the day you got married on. Awesome!!!

      Why wait for ANY particular day? You’re right. Let’s love each other and show appreciation for one another everyday!

      I’ll keep you updated on the upcoming blogs.

      Thanks For Your Comment!

      ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ.

  4. Another great article! And why should we bow to this pressure?! Felt this way for many years. Long may the resistance to relentless consumerism continue.

    Bless.

  5. “While I’m at it, I’m boycotting all birthday celebrations as well (including my own). Might as well strike the iron while it’s hot, eh?”

    Oh Miikz your really not a half step kinda guy are you?

    However I’m mostly in total agreement (see what I did there?)

    I’ve taken some simular steps recently, it’s now to be able to stand in my truth whatever the so called season is.

    Shalom

    1. @ SDR

      Definitely not a half-stepper! lol

      “mostly in total agreement”… HA! 😉

      My friend said to me recently, “You can’t stand in truth, on one leg.” For me, it’s all about evaluating my decisions before I act on them and not just moving in auto-pilot mode.

      There’s no such thing as a pure and independent auto-pilot anyway.
      Auto-pilot needs to be programmed by someone…

      Thank You For Your Comment.

      ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ.

  6. Loving the blog Miikz! You were born to do this!

    I remember Valentines Day in school where people would boast about how many cards they got. Oh the social pressure! I came home from school one Valentines Day complaining to my parents, my Dad made me a card to cheer me up- it worked and made me laugh. Love that man – obviously I knew he loved me every day.

    I was walking through Westfield this Valentines day and stopped in my tracks when I saw a bunch of flowers for sale for £60!, they probably would have cost £20 the day before. I think the problem with Valentines Day is its appearance as a well oiled day for money making. I try to avoid being told when to show love by people making a fist load of money 😉

    Valentines Day for me is filled with the school run and work like any other day, but what I really look forward to on this day and every day is our daily dinner around the table as a little family (my husband and two gorgeous little girls) where we shoot the breeze about anything and everything- I wouldn’t have Valentines Day any other way, a normal non-commercialised day with the three people I adore most in this world!

    1. @ Mrs T

      This is soooo cute! I love the fact that you actually sit around the table at dinner time, eat a meal and talk to one another. But how long before everyone’s taking their trays to sit in front of the TV to be programmed… Or how long before the girls have ‘already eaten’ or ‘out late’ or take their dinner to their rooms…? *yikes*

      I’m glad that your V-Day is filled with everyday things. We can spice it up and remember why we came together as a couple as the whole world commemorates the day, but the bottom line is that we love each other every time the sun circles above us in the sky; – tradition or not. So let this be our tradition – to express and recognise our love for each other everyday in some way or another.

      Thank You For Your Comment!

      ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ.

  7. Kirk Franklin >St Valentine > OFSTED> No gifts for anyone #revolution 😂

    There truly is only one Miikz.

    Hopefully this respect for people based on understanding will replace the ‘tolerance’ we currently see in our society.

    Is there a Mrs. Miikz follow up piece in the works?

    1. @ Long Time Listener…

      HA! Yes, I reckon there shall be a follow up piece. Maybe within the next month or so… The anniversary of her birth is coming up and I am thinking of ways to document my non-celebration of it without being too expose. We’ll see.

      Thank you for your comment.

      ONLY. ONE. MIIKZ.

        1. Thank you Kelyon…

          When you say “take it further” – should I start writing books or…?

          ONLY.ONE.MIIKZ

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